Getting Real Confidence

Ask Yourself….

• How would you like to radiate the kind of confidence and presence that magnetizes peoples’ trust and respect?

• Wouldn’t you like to express your true needs and feelings without worrying about upsetting others or doing it wrong?

• Wouldn’t you like to make decisions easily without having to be sure how things will turn out?

• Can you imagine how your life would be if you were 100% kind and loving toward yourself—never doubting your worth or being harshly critical?

• Imagine how great you will feel to have all your relationships work smoothly instead of being resigned to a certain level of frustration or miscommunication.

• Can you see yourself speaking up confidently in groups – without worrying about being judged?

Soon, with the help of Susan Campbell’s new 21-day self-guided course, you can have unshakeable self-confidence and unconditional self-esteem for the rest of your life—no matter what!_

Join forces with the laws of life…

instead of basing your happiness on the ability to CONTROL life.

Unfortunately most of us base our sense of well-being on external sources: Did he call me for a date? Did she appreciate my work?

If things turn out according to our hopes and plans, we’re happy. If they don’t, we’re disappointed, and we may even feel there’s something wrong with us. In other words, our happiness depends on being able to control the outcome. Because of this “addiction to control,” over 85% of Americans suffer from lack of confidence stemming from low self-esteem. This means that only 15% of us have discovered how to join forces with the Laws of Life so that our happiness is enduring, consistent, and unconditional.

Over the past 43 years, I have helped over 40,000 personal and business coaching clients learn to feel confident and “in control” at all times—by letting go of trying to control the uncontrollable and discovering the only reliable way to feel in control.

Did you know…….

Anxiety and depression (the 2 most common emotional disorders in the U.S.) often come from low self-esteem.

Many people lacking in self-confidence or esteem go on to achieve advanced degrees, such as a Masters, Doctorate, or a Law or Medical degree. But when these same people are asked if they feel any more confident or self-assured after their training, the majority of them report that they now see that more knowledge does not lead to more confidence.

Low self-confidence affects a person’s decision-making ability. People who feel insecure about their abilities (often for no objective reason) may have difficulty making even the smallest decisions. Often people with low self-esteem would rather take no action than risk making a mistake.

Life gets easier when you know the “rules”….

One of the many Laws of Life I teach in my Real Confidence System is the Creative Power of the GAP. Let me teach you how to mobilize this power right now FREE OF CHARGE— as your reward for reading thus far.

How would you like to automatically achieve almost anything you want….without having to try or even think about it? Most people expect to put out a lot of effort into achieving desired changes, but when you know how life works, and can work WITH the flow of life rather than against it, change happens easily.

Start by identifying a change goal you have been struggling with, such as losing weight, being more self-loving, or being less judgmental. In your imagination, paint a 3-D picture of your present situation—where you are now with respect to this goal. For example, if your goal is to be more self-loving, you might picture your present situation as: working at your desk 10 hours a day without a break, eating sugar at every meal and sugary snacks between meals, getting defensive when someone criticizes you, doubting yourself whenever you and someone else have a disagreement, and so on. Take some time to flesh out the details of your current existence with respect to self-love. Be very specific in painting your mental picture. Sense how your body feels. Notice your thoughts. Feel your emotions. By doing this you are operating in accord with one of the most basic principles of how change works—in order for change to happen, you must take full responsibility for and fully experience where you are now.

Now, “be with” this image of yourself just as you are with respect to self-love—without praise or blame. You’re feeling it, seeing it, sensing it, grokking it—in all of its dimensions, some of which are indescribable with words, but you feel it.

Once you have a full and complete felt sense of where you are now, and have spent some time “being there,” create an image of where you’d like to be with respect to the same specifics you noted above. For example: you’re working at your desk only 4 hours per day (instead of 10), and you take stretch breaks every hour; you have a super-food green drink when you need a snack, instead of eating sugary foods; when someone disagrees with you, you listen openly without losing touch with what YOU think about the subject, and they compliment you on your original thinking.

Take some time to picture specific positive events that foster self-love and self-respect. See yourself behaving in self-caring ways. Sense how your body feels when you take good care of it. Notice yourself having positive, self-affirming thoughts. Feel your tender, forgiving, compassionate feelings toward yourself and others. Imagine yourself in scenes and situations that bring you happiness. By doing this you are fulfilling another one of the basic principles of how Life works—if you can imagine yourself having it, you are capable of manifesting it.

Now imagine holding in your left hand the felt sense of “where you are now.” In your right hand, hold the sense of “where you’d like to be.” Draw a mental circle around both hands so that you are at one and the same time holding both images. You are now “holding the creative tension of the GAP”—one of the most powerful tools Life offers us. Feel how this act of holding both sides at once “stretches” you. Sense an inner expansion—it feels as if you are becoming a “bigger person.” Hold this creative tension for a few minutes taking long slow deep breaths. This act is beneficial for many reasons: it teaches your system to hold a bigger charge; it teaches you to be aware of more of the total 360 degrees of Reality available to you in any given moment; it teaches you that having a GAP between your ideal self and your actual self is not a bad thing. In fact it is quite normal! It also teaches you to be more comfortable with the natural discrepancies of Life—we are always encountering discrepancies or GAPs between things like where we are and where we’d like to be or how we see ourselves and how someone else sees us. Typically, people feel anxiety when they notice such GAPs—and they think anxiety is a bad thing. But this type of anxiety is actually a good thing! It’s like the slight discomfort you feel when you are hungry—the urge that propels you to go get something to eat. Life is full of GAPs. They are inevitable. So you’re learning to re-frame this type of anxiety and accept the necessary discomforts of Life gracefully and without resistance.

All these benefits are yours for simply “experiencing the GAP” with an attitude of openness. And we haven’t even gotten to the best part—the part about getting what you want without efforting. If you spend just these few minutes “being with the GAP,” and pay attention afterwards, you will be delighted to find that the distance between where you are and where you’d like to be narrows! And that GAP keeps on getting narrower over time without even having to think about it. By deeply experiencing the GAP, you have set in motion a natural change process that creates a new relationship between your present situation and your ideal. Instead of being at odds with one another, you have encouraged a “new relationship” between the two—a relationship of cooperation and mutual influence vs conflict.

You may reinforce and stimulate this natural change process by occasionally reminding yourself to “be with the GAP,” as described above. Let the natural creative power of the GAP propel you to a life of confidence and ease.

The law of the GAP is just one of the many Basic Life Principles you will learn to master when you accept my invitation to a life of Real Confidence.

I have been working with DrSusan’s Real Confidence Mini-Course for just over one week, and I already feel much more confident, capable, and even loveable. I am more compassionate toward the less-than-perfect aspects of myself—less harshly critical. I am more connected to a deeper, wiser place in myself. I take more risks (and get positive results). I am more comfortable in my own skin. My wife and business partners have noticed the difference too!”

-Mitch, Sales Manager, Syracuse, New York

There’s no substitute for Life Experience. Dr. Susan knows Life!

Susan Campbell has been a respected resource for individuals, couples, teams, and business leaders since 1967. After earning her Ph.D. in psychology from the University of Massachusetts in 1967, she went on to become a member of that school’s prestigious Graduate Faculty until 1977, when she left there to join the faculty of Saybrook Graduate School in San Francisco where she still holds a faculty appointment. During this time she developed a respected body of personal development practices called Getting Real and has trained hundreds of coaches to become Getting Real Coaches. She has presented the Getting Real work to CEO’s, managers, and the general public as an author, speaker, and teamwork consultant to Fortune 50 companies. Four of her nine published books have become best-sellers and have been published in twelve languages.

In demand with the press, radio and TV she has appeared on such national shows as CNN’s News Night and Good Morning America. She is also a regular guest expert on ABC’s View From the Bay and CBS’s Bay Area Focus. During the 2004-2005 season, DrSusan had her own reality TV show, TRUTH IN LOVE, a weekly show based on her book, Truth in Dating (seen on CBS-affiliate, UPN).

Accomplished in the business world, DrSusan has directed a think tank, run several non-profit organizations, worked for Fortune 500 companies, and guest lectured at the Harvard, Stanford, and UCLA business schools. She has presented her work internationally at such venues as Management Centre Europe, Belgium, Leeds University, England, Women’s Leadership Conference, Melbourne, Australia, and La Biblioteca, San Miguel de’Allende, Mexico.

Her work has been featured in such popular magazines as Cosmopolitan, Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Science of Mind, Seventeen, Men’s Health, Brides’s, Women’s Health, New Woman, Psychology Today, New Age, Yoga Journal, and Esquire.

An avid adventurer and proponent of “living your life out loud,” she has made, lost, and recovered millions, lived in other cultures, and spent two years sailing her 47-foot sailboat halfway around the world.

This is the life of a confident person!

Real Confidence Lasts a Lifetime

My mother used to say, “Nobody can take it away from you if it really belongs to you.” This, of course, applies most to things like self-esteem and confidence. I have dedicated my life to helping people discover unshakeable self-trust—the type of confidence that is not dependent on external sources.

In times of tumultuous change and increasing uncertainty, anything you have today can be gone tomorrow—except those things that make you who you truly are such as, loving yourself, enjoying your own company, knowing how to learn from everything, and valuing the gifts you have to offer. When you learn to love and enjoy yourself and value your gifts, you will radiate a sense of confidence that makes people trust you and want to do business with you. You’ll become irresistably attractive. You’ll magnetize success and happiness.

Happy people earn almost $1 million more in their lifetime than unhappy people. You can have the kind of deep, calm happiness that draws to you good energy and good fortune.

Don’t spend another day feeling less than completely happy with your life. Stop playing it safe by settling for what you think you can have instead of going for what you really want. What will your life be like 5 or 10 or 20 years from now if you don’t take action now to change things? How will you feel at the end of your life, when you look back on how you’ve lived? I want the best for you, and I’m committed to delivering it!

Save time and money by “doing-it-yourself!”

The Getting Real Confidence Self-Guided System is the culmination of my life’s work. I have been helping clients be more successful, empowered, and confident for 43 years. Now you can get this thoroughly road-tested, self-paced confidence-building system for half of what it would cost you for an in-person session with me. And you can start creating the life you want immediately in the safety of your own home.

The Best and Brightest Hire Dr. Susan

I have worked with some of the most successful people on the planet—CEOs of Fortune 50 companies, well-known authors and seminar leaders, respected coaches, successful entrepreneurs. These are the type of people who come to me—people who want the best! These people demand tangible results, and they get results.

Getting Real Confidence is in a class by itself!

Many self-help programs focus on behavior and not feelings, or they focus on feelings, beliefs, vision and the like without making the critical link to behavior change.

And few, if any, other programs transform your relationship to Life itself. My Real Confidence System works with your inner world, your outer behavior, and your relationship to the larger Reality. You learn to really get to know and accept yourself; you learn how Life works; and you learn specific, positive behaviors you can start using right away to build a more powerful personal presence.

This program builds confidence from the ground up, from the inside out, and from the outside in!

This is groundbreaking information….

The tools you will learn in my system are not just a re-hash of other things that you’ve read about or heard before. Unless you have read my books, these practices will bring you to a new understanding of how confidence is really built. No matter what level of confidence you’re at now, you’ll gain a deeper, more sustainable level of self-confidence and esteem.

PS

I am only interested in creating life-long relationships with my customers. I know this can only happen if you get great results and I keep delivering even better products. So I want to hear from you—what worked and what else do you need to make your life work even better?

So please email me with your comments and feedback.

My email is drsusan@susancampbell.com

And please join my on-line discussion group where people just like you practice their new skills with other like-minded individuals. To join, go to www.susancampbell.com and click on the link on the left side of the home page that says “Online Community.”